#3 NPA FINAL

never be too obvious or direct, playfully imply attraction, create mystery, be vague, imply rather than state, be playful

Flirting is not the same as the fun, friendly banter you have with your guy friends. Flirting is far more sexual—not directly sexual (as stated above), but indirect

When women ‘shit test’ you, such as by making a snide comment, asking an uncomfortable question, or poking and prodding for potential insecurities of yours, just agree and amplify whatever she says.

Act like you’re the prize. This is a really fun and playful way of flirting. Simply reframe the conversation—or any of her actions—as if she is the one chasing after you

Take her on an emotional rollercoaster by playfully pushing her away (either emotionally, physically, or both) and then pulling her back in. Push, pull, push, push, push, pull. Also playfully set up role-play situations where you play the masculine role and her the feminine

This is perhaps one of the most important aspects of flirting, because from your mindset comes all else. Specifically, though, take charge of situations (no, “What do you want to do?” nonsense), cultivate a “gives zero fucks” attitude, and find (and aggressively pursue) a mission that has nothing to do with women. These might seem to have nothing to do with flirting, but trust me, women pick up on guys with a strong, masculine mindset and they find it irresistible.

While you don’t want to be the guy who gets friendzoned because he only talked about platonic topics, you also don’t want to make the mistake of only flirting without establishing any real connection. Build this connection by talking about such topics as her experiences, passions, aspirations, and motivations. Just make sure to balance it with plenty of playful, sexual flirting.

Don’t just be 100 percent platonic and then think you can go for the kiss at the end of the night. It doesn’t work that way. You need to ‘slowly boil’ her, like a frog in a pot of water. Build up gradually by continuously escalating, both physically and verbally.

Statements make you sound 10X more confident and dominant, both of which are super sexy traits to women. Statements also build an instant sense of familiarity, as if you’ve known each other longer than you really have. Finally, statements often force you to make guesses about her, which you can either turn into jokes by exaggerating or add fire to the conversation by having her ask you what it was about her that made you guess what you did and/or impressing her with your perceptiveness. All around, statements are far sexier than questions. So don’t ask questions, make statements.